SECRECY and trust

Secrecy is the quality or condition of being hidden. It is marked by the habit of discretion.

I guess no one ever exists without secrets hidden. These could be anything about family, love, friendship and etc. Ironically, secrets are meant to be shared with the one you "trust". Mostly, people cannot handle to conceal everything so there's a tendency to spill them off.

Trust-- it is an assured reliance on the truth of someone or something. If someone shares his secret unto you, then he gains his trust on you. Yet a single slip of the tongue can break ones trust. Trust is like a mirror, you can't fix it when it's broken. Though you can try to stick the pieces, the crack is still there.

Most of my friends rather share their secrets to their close friends than to their parents. Indeed, I'm different. I always share my own secrets to my mother. She even updated on my crushes. That's how I trust her. Aside from her, there are also my close friends especially my sisters, CRIFTs.

I'm really flattered when somebody shares his own secrets to me. I really love the feeling of being trusted. Believe it or not, I could be a victim of slipping tongue. That's why I'd rather keep my mouth shut than to dare to spill somebody's secret. It is really hard when trust is lost.

Yes, keeping a secret is difficult. Then it really matters on how you control your mind. You should think of the consequences if you let the cat out of the bag. Aside from the worst aftermath which is broken trust, you can embarrass a certain person then ruin his reputation. Maybe, you can destroy somebody's plan.

You can lie if it is really needed. Not all liea can harm. Lie can be beneficial. It really depends on the situation. That's a defense mechanism to remain a secret hidden. Pretend you don't know anything.

To keep safe, better change the topic of a conversation when there's a tendency in digging up a secret. Have a presence of mind

If you want to share your own secret to somebody, think first if the subject of that trust is really that reliable. Anyone has a possibility to spread a secret.

Yes, secrets are meant to be concealed yet most are meant to be revealed. Brace yourself on the revelation but don't let it happen by somebody else's mouth.